Helping a friend through an addiction
Friends don't let friends drink and drive. And, they don't stay silent when they see a friend consumed by alcoholism or drug abuse. "Not stepping in sends a message that the addictive behavior is okay," says Ray Madiou, CADC, a Virtua certified addiction counselor. While speaking up may strain the relationship, silence will destroy it.
Approaching the conversation is delicate. Think the discussion through, and avoid making accusations or labeling the person. Consulting with a substance abuse expert, such as those at Virtua's Alcove chemical dependency program, will provide insight and guidance. A 12-step based program, Alcove provides outpatient treatment to adults and adolescents.
Counselors recommend these guidelines.
Avoid threatening, bribing and preaching.
Resist emotional appeals that trigger guilt.
Don't assume the abuser's responsibilities.
Maintain a healthy home atmosphere.
Encourage new interests.
Attend addiction support groups.
Talk with a sober friend, clergy person, or substance abuse clinician.
Most addicts deny having a problem or say it's under control. It's tempting to accept these words, but believing this worsens the situation.