Tips to Help Children Cope With Your Diagnosis

A diagnosis of cancer typically brings with it an array of emotions that can include fear, anger, sadness, depression, anxiety and others.  You may ask yourself, “Why is this happening to me?” or “Can this really be true?” 

At the same time, you may find it difficult to know how to talk with your children about the diagnosis.  This is not unusual. The following are some tips to help you and your family deal with the emotions you are experiencing.

• Engage in an age appropriate discussion with your child regarding your diagnosis and treatment.
  
  
• Assure your child that it’s okay for them to be sad or upset or angry, and help them discuss their feelings.
  
  
• If your child is worried about sharing their thoughts with you because of your diagnosis, help them find another trusted adult who is available to talk with them when they need someone.  Some possibilities are grandparents, aunts/uncles, minister/rabbi, teacher/counselor, neighbor, psychologist or social worker.
  
  
• Keep your child’s school informed of any changes in your household that may affect behavior. The school is often the first to observe changes in the child’s demeanor and behavior.

Updated December 29, 2017